Dear “Autism parents”.
You are not giving birth to Autism.
You give birth to a child. An Autistic child.
And Autism is their experience, their identity and their condition.
It’s not about you.
And even Autistic parenting is not about you. It’s about parents who is Autistic themselfs. These parents exist, even if their experiences are erased.
This stuff about “Autism parenting” is one of the reasons why Autistic parenting, real Autistic parenting is erased.
And why some folks believe that paaaarents know more than actually Autistic people – I mean in our culture around Autism, Autism is so often about parents.
But if you want your kids to be happy, to be heard and to be taken seriously you need to stop this.
You need to accept that Autistic identity is not your identity to take.
It’s like… If you are not a doctor you are not a “medicine parent”. You are a parent of a medical worker.
If you are not a woman but have a daughter you are not “the girl parent”. You are a father who happened to have a girl as a child.
So you are not Autism parent.
You are a parent of an Autistic kid.
-Ayman, Ver.B.A., Lil.
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